Hey Urbane Beauties,
I posted this message in a natural hair group I follow and the results were quite interesting:
”Can you guys take a quick poll?
Did you feel most confident when wearing?
- Relaxed Hair
- Natural Hair
- Weave or other protective styles”
This poll was available to millennial naturals and while only 41 responded it was enough to see how hair can affect confidence levels.
The results concluded that only one woman admittedly feels her best with relaxed hair. Of the remaining 40, twenty women felt the most confident with their natural hair and the other 20 preferred weave and other styles.
To get a better understanding of why they made their choices let’s take a look at some of the responses.
I Prefer ….
Mari A. says “My hair is naturally really fine no matter what I do so I prefer the fullness of weave”
Tanisha S. says “Weaves because my natural hair isn’t long enough yet”
Dominque T. says ” I adore my natural hair don’t get me wrong but I’m lowkey Beyonce so a good weave brings out my alter ego and by weave. I don’t mean straight, it could be kinky curly weave as well it gives me the look that I hope to have one day once my natural hair grows some more”
Lola D. says “Only because I like my hair straighten. It was easy to unwrap my hair and go. Now that I am natural I do not straighten my hair (1-4 times a year) and if I am in a rush I ended up with a bun and frizzy edges. I can have no makeup on but my hair would still look nice (with a relaxer) being natural I can have no make on and if I am in a rush my hair will look a messy so it’s all bad.”
Terrick T says “… with a relaxer the smallest amount of moisture I had an afro. When I did my big chop, I wanted to cry because I thought I looked like a little boy. My mom gave me a pair of earrings and said, “it’s ok, it’ll grow on you, you look cute!” Then I began getting comments from strangers and joined this group and my confidence grew stronger than before. Now I’m doing my own hair for free when at first I would go to the beauty shop every two weeks and have braids every summer. Look at me now!!!”
Naijah Y. says “I felt so natural & uniquely beautiful. It’s easy to obtain a straight style or a weave but no one will ever have your hair… The exact curl, shade, length, texture. It’s beautiful to embrace and love something that comes from your scalp. Plus there’s nothing like letting the wind blow past your coils.”
Alicia R. says “I LOVE my natural hair! I always felt like I was hiding behind my relaxed hair. People would always tell me that my relaxed hair was so pretty and blah blah blah so I felt like I had to keep it because it’s what everyone else liked. But once I’m done what I wanted and big chopped, I felt free and instantly fell in love! My hair is more healthy and I’ve grown to love it even more as it continues to grow! I love being a beautiful black natural woman”
Qween M. says “I love my Natural hair and I feel most confident with it. I take so much pride in nurturing and embracing its unique textures. (I have a few) I abandoned it for so long not knowing how beautiful it is.”
Elisabeth O. says “I think it depends on what you have been exposed to….when I was on the creamy crack I felt good and confident with it. But I would always worry about sweating, rain, it frizzing up after a while or the wind destroy my style. So I was constantly worried. Being natural is a whole different ball game of confidence. I walk down the road thinking dang I know I look good. I don’t ever have to worry….I know that I stand out but I love it because it’s positive.”
Marcia P. says “I seem to receive the most compliments when I have on weave or ponytails. Not to say that my confidence level is altered.. But I believe what society views as pretty may be one reason why weaves are more acceptable… even in a corporate setting. (All natural on left… faux pony on right.)”
Do naturals feel most confident in their natural hair?
If anything naturals feel their best selves when they don’t have someone defining their natural hair journey for them. At the end of the day women just want good hair days. That’s it!
Black women want quality weave, nice braids, defined twist outs or amazing afros. If that means wearing a weave that brings out her inner Beyonce, she will wear those extra-virgin-unprocessed-organic 7a bundles hot off the boat from a Chinese factory and it has nothing to do with her self-esteem. The women that felt most confident with protective styles felt it was more about getting more length and fullness.
She doesn’t NEED weave, she WANTS it and her confidence comes from the fact that gets it and rocks it like the boss she is.
Confidence is defined by “a feeling of self-assurance arising from one’s own abilities or qualities”
News Flash: No one goes natural because they hate themselves!
A lot of naturals find confidence in being free to cut, twist, braid or letting their hair be free. This is because they put serious effort and money into perfecting every curl and coil. There’s pride in finally figuring out how to tame a fro. For those that voted on feeling their best in their natural state, it was all about pride.
It doesn’t matter what standard of beauty society sets. Confidence comes from living up to the beauty standards you set for yourself.